Domestic Violence Information

Local Hotlines and Shelters

  • Ventura County:
    • The Coalition to End Family Violence, 805-656-1111
    • Interface, 1-800-339-9597
  • Canoga Park Crisis Line: 818-887-6589
  • Santa Barbara Shelter Services: 805-984-5845
  • Santa Clarita Shelter: 1-661-259-4357
  • Los Angeles Sojourn Services: 1-310-264-6644

Am I Being Abused?

bigstock_Sad_Woman_4459867How is your relationship? Does your partner:

  • Embarrass you with put-downs?
  • Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
  • Control what you do, who you see or talk to or where you go?
  • Stop you from seeing your friends or family members?
  • Take your money or Social Security check, make you ask for money or refuse to give you money?
  • Make all of the decisions?
  • Tell you that you’re a bad parent or threaten to take away or hurt your children?
  • Prevent you from working or attending school?
  • Act like the abuse is no big deal, it’s your fault, or even deny doing it?
  • Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?
  • Intimidate you with guns, knives or other weapons?
  • Shove you, slap you, choke you, or hit you?
  • Force you to try and drop charges?
  • Threaten to commit suicide?
  • Threaten to kill you?

Please read on for safety planning guidelines, for how to increase your safety and what to do if you choose to leave your abusive relationship.